When Self-Care Feels Selfish: A Workshop for People-Pleasers in Pennsylvania
If you often find yourself putting others first, managing how people feel, or feeling responsible for keeping the peace, you’re not alone.
This workshop is designed to help you understand why self-care can feel uncomfortable—or even wrong—and how your relationship patterns, attachment experiences, and emotional instincts shape the way you show up with others and yourself.
Together, we’ll begin shifting those patterns in a way that feels more steady, connected, and sustainable.
A therapist-led self-care workshop for people-pleasers. Learn how to set boundaries, manage guilt, and care for yourself without feeling selfish.
When Self-Care Feels Selfish
You’re the one people rely on.
The one who notices what others need, adjusts, and steps in.
And over time, it becomes harder to tell where others end and you begin.
Taking care of yourself can bring up guilt.
Or fear of disappointing someone.
Or a quiet sense that something might feel off in your relationships if you change.
This workshop creates space to understand those patterns—not as flaws, but as adaptations that made sense—and to begin relating to yourself differently.
A therapist-led self-care workshop for people-pleasers. Learn how to set boundaries, manage guilt, and care for yourself without feeling selfish.
What this workshop is about Together, we’ll explore:
How people-pleasing develops in relationships and early attachment experiences
Why guilt, anxiety, or fear can show up when you try to set limits
The role of emotional attunement, responsibility, and over-functioning in your relationships
What it looks like to stay connected to others without losing connection to yourself
Throughout the workshop, you’ll be invited into guided reflection and relational exercises that help you:
Notice your instinct to adjust, fix, or accommodate
Explore what your needs feel like underneath those patterns
Practice expressing limits or preferences in a supported way
Begin tolerating the discomfort that can come with doing things differently
This isn’t about forcing change—it’s about understanding your patterns and gently expanding what feels possible.
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Feel responsible for other people’s emotions
Struggle to say no without guilt or anxiety
Often prioritize others, even when it costs you
Feel drained, resentful, or unsure of your own needs
Want to feel more secure and grounded in your relationships
Still have questions?
What You’ll Take Away
A clearer understanding of your relational and attachment patterns
Language for your needs that feels more natural and less reactive
Tools for navigating guilt and fear without abandoning yourself
A more steady, self-trusting way of showing up in relationships
A deeper sense of permission to take up space in your own life
A therapist-led self-care workshop for people-pleasers. Learn how to set boundaries, manage guilt, and care for yourself without feeling selfish.
Self-Care and People-Pleaser Workshop Details
Format: In-person small group
Location: Cold Stream, Pavillion #1, Philipsburg, PA
Date: June 14, 2026
Time: 1-3:30 PM
Length: 2.5 hours
Cost: $100
A therapist-led self-care workshop for people-pleasers. Learn how to set boundaries, manage guilt, and care for yourself without feeling selfish.
About the Facilitator
Alesia Dumas, LPC is a licensed therapist offering online therapy across Pennsylvania and Delaware. Her work focuses on relationships, boundaries, and helping clients navigate guilt, people-pleasing, and emotional overwhelm.
She integrates relational and emotionally focused approaches, helping clients not just understand their patterns—but shift how they experience them in real time.
About the Location
This workshop will take place outdoors in a quiet, wooded setting under a covered pavilion.
The setting is meant to support the work we’re doing—offering space to slow down, reflect, and step outside of the patterns that can feel automatic in everyday life.
We’ll meet rain or shine, with the pavilion providing coverage.
You’re welcome to bring anything that helps you feel comfortable—such as a blanket, water, or a journal. Restrooms are available and there is picnic table seating.
A Different Way Forward
Self-care doesn’t have to feel forced, selfish, or disconnected from who you are.
You can care about others and stay connected to yourself.
You can feel guilt and make different choices anyway.
You don’t have to keep disappearing in your relationships to stay connected.
Reserve your spot in the workshop and start building a more sustainable way of showing up—for yourself and the people you care about.
A therapist-led self-care workshop for people-pleasers. Learn how to set boundaries, manage guilt, and care for yourself without feeling selfish.
Self-Care & People-Pleasing Workshop
FAQs
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This self-care workshop for people-pleasers focuses on understanding the relationship patterns that make it hard to set boundaries or prioritize your own needs. You’ll learn how people-pleasing develops, why guilt shows up, and how to begin caring for yourself in a way that still feels connected to others.
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You might relate to people-pleasing if you often feel responsible for others’ emotions, have difficulty saying no, or prioritize others even when it leaves you feeling drained or resentful. This workshop is designed to help you better understand those patterns and where they come from.
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No. While there may be opportunities for reflection or optional discussion, sharing is never required. Many of the exercises can be done individually, and you’re always in control of what you choose to say or keep private.
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It’s a blend of both. You’ll learn about people-pleasing and relationship patterns, and you’ll also have space for guided reflection and gentle, experiential exercises to help you begin applying what you’re learning.
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Yes. A central focus of the workshop is understanding why guilt shows up when you try to set boundaries, and how to begin responding to that guilt differently. You’ll learn tools to support boundary-setting while staying connected in your relationships.
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You’re welcome to bring anything that helps you feel comfortable, such as water, a journal, or a blanket. Seating will be provided.
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This workshop takes place at Cold Stream Dam, an outdoor, wooded setting under a covered pavilion in Philipsburg, Pennsylvania. The location is designed to support a calm, reflective environment while still providing shelter from the elements.
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You can reserve your spot by clicking the registration link on this page. Space is limited to keep the group supportive and manageable.
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Cancellations made at least 48 hours in advance will receive a full refund. Due to limited space, cancellations within 48 hours are non-refundable. To cancel, please email alesiadumas@yourcounselingpath.com